Comments on: Becoming a Paranoid Parent

By: Maureen

Maureen — Fri, 20 Feb 2009 23:49:47 +0000

I agree with the other posters. There is nothing wrong with Hannah sleeping in your room, as long as all 3 of you are content with the situation. I tend to be on the attachment parenting side as well. And I’m also a huge person of “go with your instincts”. Maybe Hannah needs to hear you breathing still. From an anthropological point of view, sleeping in separate rooms (for babies and small children) is a “new” thing, people couldn’t have been that wrong for that many of thousands of years of sleeping in the same room. There are still many parts of the world it is completely normal to have a child share a room. I say, let her stay (not that I really have any say in it at all).

By: Andrea

Andrea — Fri, 20 Feb 2009 21:09:13 +0000

I don’t blame you for being paranoid or overprotective — I think there would be something wrong with a mom if she wasn’t like that in your situation! I have done a lot of research about babies & sleep and even though I don’t practice co-sleeping, I know it works really well for a lot of people and studies prove there is absolutely nothing wrong with it. In fact, there are a lot of benefits. We are given the message that children MUST sleep on their own — but this goes against many mother’s instincts and we should never ignore our feelings just because society wants us to do it differently. Every parent and every child is different — my son and I both sleep better in different rooms, but I have family & friends who sleep better, as do their babies, when they are in the same room. I say, do what works best! There is no need to be in a hurry with this. Just let it happen naturally when you are ready –I guarantee you she won’t be a teenager wanting to sleep with you, haha!

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By: Melanie Turner

Melanie Turner — Fri, 20 Feb 2009 18:17:37 +0000

I'm a little more of an attachment parent myself, so I have absolutely no problem with cosleeping, much less keeping her in your room. While my 2 year old has his own room, just about every night he ends up in my bed or I end up in his (he sleeps on a full sized futon, so I'm not like crunched up on a toddler bed). He slept in my bed until he was over 20 months. While I have no idea what you must be experiencing in relation to your daughter's condition, I don't think I would rush into getting her into another room. My son never once slept in a crib and to get up and go into another room would be quite tiring for you. I wish you luck and peace in your journey. Melanie Turner’s last blog post..Neenah Paper now offers ENVIRONMENT Digital

By: Carrie

Carrie — Fri, 20 Feb 2009 16:18:17 +0000

Mother's intuition is a real thing. Your body wouldn't be waking you up at every noise if you didn't feel there was a real need for surveillance. If you move the baby, you might find yourself running in the other room every time you hear a noise on the monitor, which would be a lot more exhausting. Carrie’s last blog post..It's a ....

By: heather

heather — Fri, 20 Feb 2009 16:15:18 +0000

I don’t think you are overreacting at all! Maybe talk to the doctor about a sleep apnea monitor in case she does have trouble breathing? Maybe that would then allow you to move her to her own room.